We may have given it away in fear, or because of threats or tantrums or other manipulation – but the bottom line is we GAVE it away. Our time. Anyone who has been in an abusive relationship always beats themselves up over all the wasted time spent trying to fix/heal/win over this person. And I … Continue reading Baby-steps for showing up for yourself – stop gift wrapping your time for others!
Love is not seeing how much s*** you can put up with from another human being. We think that if we continually turn the other cheek, look the other way, forgive and allow it to happen again that we are somehow being loving. But here’s the thing: we’re allowing them to get away with bad … Continue reading This isn’t love
I was ambushed. Out of nowhere in particular, the cloud descended and enveloped me today. Suddenly the sunshine, usually so bright, was nowhere to be found. Have you ever had a day like that? Everything is blanketed in gray, heavy mist. And I know in my head that I am surrounded by good and beautiful … Continue reading Fighting through the fog
You know the thing about being a codependent is that one day, you wake up and you are staring into a mirror at a stranger. Nobody truly sees this person, and now neither do you. You have lost yourself in a desperate attempt to survive by effacing yourself to keep others happy. How can you … Continue reading Becoming visible again