Whenever I face a difficult situation I turn to research – knowledge brings enlightenment, which in turns brings about solutions. Even if you do not consider yourself a reader – READ! Pick up a book and even if you only read a few pages you will be wiser than you were before you picked it up.

These books changed my perspective and helped to point me in the right direction – I know they will do the same for you. Be encouraged as you learn and grow!

Please note – I do not receive any monetary gain from recommending these books. I provide the links to Amazon since I shop there often and it is the most convenient way to show you where these books can be found. Borrow them at the library if you can! How you get them doesn’t matter as much as the simple fact that you do.

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend – this book changed the way I acted in my marriage and helped me to grow a pair (to be blunt) and restore some sanity to my life. What you think is normal might be unhealthy! Learning these lessons will actually help all of your relationships become healthier.

The emotionally abusive relationship by Beverly Engel. If you are confused and unsure whether a relationship is abusive, This book was an eye opener and a game changer for me, confirming I was not insane nor making things up. Read this!

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I can’t tell you how many of these I have bought and handed out over the years. Please please please read this book! The checklist in the front alone is worth the price. Understanding what you are dealing with will empower you to make the necessary changes. That and a good support network. But this book is a terrific place to start gaining insight and clarity. She also has a workbook called Victory over Verbal Abuse which I recommend.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove, Peter McWilliams and Harold H. Bloomfield. No matter what the state of the relationship was, when it is lost we need to grieve. This book helped me to deal with the pain and the loss when I didn’t know how to react and when many of my friends were avoiding the topic since they also were unsure.